Every one of us has things around the way we do things that sets us back in our connections.  Here's a check list of some common things that can put sticks in your wheels:

Making assumptions

Most of us pride ourselves in have an intuition which is, in truth, quite unreliable.  Think of this.  Looking around a room of people, if you were asked to figure out what each person was thinking -- how would you score?  An honest answer has lots of 0000's in it 
So find out!  Use your intuition to prompt you for questions about those things that you feel like you need to know, but don't make assumptions! 

If you and the other person spend much more time in finding out about the other person than you pressing information about yourself on to them then you will set the foundation of a fine time together. 

Communicate

The word means "to become one". Pick agreements, not arguments.  Go for what you have in common rather that what is different. Everyone has, as a part of being different human beings in different times and locations, different backgrounds, a different viewpoint.  But the path you are on is intended to bring those journeys together rather than to push people into a lonely solitude.
So build  a common story with the people who are important to you.

Think architecture

Build good foundations. In early days of a relationship make the principles you live by an important part of the conversation.
Architecture is everything.  You can't build a skyscraper on the foundations / framework of a dog house. 

Start something well and the chances are it will end well.  Fail to create good foundations and you will have to unbuild and rebuild. This is a very common weakness in the relationships of today. 

Be clear about roles

By understanding your part to play in the very different roles of man and woman, then you will avoid unnecessary contention.  It's really important to acknowledge that being a man or a woman is a whole lot more than just the running gear. But any of you gentlemen out there will understand that gentlemen even of the nicest kind find some issues around breastfeeding a child. You'd like to help but you just don't have the equipment. 

Well differences exist in terms of emotions, approach and responsibilities. When you play a new sport then wouldn't the first thing you ask be "what are the rules"?

Cut everyone some slack

Remember the first time you rode a bike? Probably not pretty.  But then maybe you pushed through that awkwardness and managed to get around a bit better. Then it became automatic. You didn't even have to think about it.
Everything's like that. If you are not prepared to look awkward when you first try something then you aren't going to get to cool anytime soon. It's the person who is lucky enough to have the wisdom and the support to get through the awkward bit that gets to cool. How you get the support from people to get through "awkward" is to help others do the same. 

Effective people see awkward as a necessary phase of developing anything worthwhile. Even relationships (as though you didn't know)!

Get off your position

Yes. It is possible to be incredibly right about things.  Have you noticed that it's quite lonely too?  Being right on things that don't matter is a very effective way of staying single for a long time.  So don't sweat the small stuff. Now some of that rightness is quite comforting. Maybe you've been doing it for a long time. Even if so, your reading this because you want different results.
Being right about things that don't matter is a better way of starting wars rather than relationships

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